positive attitude

what is it?

A positive attitude is an outlook on life that looks for the good in people and expects good things to happen in a variety of situations. People who have a positive attitude recognize and seek out opportunities as well as focus on successes and accomplishments rather than dwell on failure and negativity. Additionally, people with a positive attitude are optimistic and cheerful and focus on their reaction to events that occur rather than trying to control life’s events. 

why do we need it?

Because children in our society lead safe and protected lives, you may not think that courage is a character trait children need in their daily lives. But courage is actually of the most important character traits. Courage is not only being brave in the face of fear—it’s also doing what needs to be done even when it is really hard. Courage is not always grand gestures or the feats of superheroes. Mostly, courage is formed every day in small ways; it might mean being kind to the new kid in class, trying something new, or speaking up when they’ve made a mistake. Courage gives us the ability to start things, to go outside our comfort zone, to persist when the going gets tough. Practicing courage raises children’s self-competence and self-esteem. When children feel good about themselves and use their personal power to make courageous choices, they are more likely to lead personally satisfying and successful lives. Courage is a trait children need their whole lives to face the challenges and obstacles that get in the way of achieving goals and reaching their dreams. 

what are the goals?

In fostering a positive attitude in children, we are teaching them to: 

how do we teach it?

books we read

how to boost it at home

words we use

Model a positive attitude.

If you model approaching each day with a positive attitude, you are helping your child learn how to do so as well. By demonstrating a positive “can do” approach to everyday situations, you are teaching your child to tackle their problems in a positive way. 

Reframe negative statements/situations.

Reflect on the way you react to unforeseen or stressful circumstances around your child. When you find the dishwasher is broken after dinner, is your child likely to hear you say something like, “Oh great, just another thing to add to the to do list that I don’t have time for,” or watch as you put the dishes in the sink and say, “Never fear, the dish fairy is here!” 

Predict a positive outcome.

After you and your child plant seeds in the garden, talk about how they will soon sprout and then become beautiful flowers. 

Encourage risk taking.

Encourage your child to step out of her comfort zone and try something new. It doesn’t matter whether or not she is met with success, but rather the amount of effort she puts in. You can encourage her to be persistent in learning a new skill. 

Find ways for your child to shine.

If your child shows an interest in sports, sign them up for soccer. Or if they talk about how much fun they have during art at school, provide them with a variety of art supplies to use at home. This will increase their competence, confidence, and positivity. 

Read books that demonstrate a positive attitude.

As you are reading, stop to discuss the characters, the conflict that they face and how their attitude helps (or hinders) resolving the problem. 

Invite your child to share his successes.

Each day take a few minutes to invite your child to talk about something good that happened to him that day. This could be learning a new song, working with a friend to build a block city, or helping a friend. 

Practice starting each day with a positive affirmation.

Maybe in the car on the way to school, at breakfast, or as you get your child ready, share a positive affirmation with them. Starting the day with a statement like, “I get better at soccer every day,” “I am in control of my attitude, and I am choosing to have a great day,” or “All of my problems have solutions” builds your child’s confidence and competence as she starts her day. 

Focus on the accomplishments and successes, but don't ignore mistakes or failures.

Talk to your child about instances when they didn’t get the outcome they wanted. Ask how they felt about what happened and brainstorm actions that they could retake (rebuilding a structure they accidentally knocked down, trying again to finish the puzzle that they were unable to complete yesterday, apologizing to a friend after accidentally hurting their feelings) to help them have amore positive approach.

Use art as a medium to help children learn to identify and manage large feelings, and talk with your child about ways to turn the negative feelings around. 

Teach your child that it's never to late to "turn the day around."

If your child has a hard morning at home, use the time in the car on the way to school to remind them that what happened at home is in the past and they can look ahead to having a great day at school. 

Have fun and be silly!

Find ways to laugh, play, and be silly with your child. Play silly games, have an impromptu dance party or sing silly songs. A house filled with fun and laughter goes a long way to instilling a positive attitude in your child. 

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